She describes a long string of creepy, (much) older men who would latch onto her and try to court her, despite her not having shown any interest. They seemed to take her disability as an open invitation to disregard whatever boundaries she set: they'd mail her pornographic pictures with notes to her written on them, they'd ask her to be their girlfriend, their sex partner, their roommate, their wife --- even to move to their home country with them. They were all total strangers.
Here's an excerpt:
It's not that I'm complaining about the male attention; that would be an unwise thing for a single girl to do. But this type of man - the one who sends you running to the Oxford English Dictionary for the precise definition of 'stalker' - wasn't exactly what I was looking for. Despite my obvious reluctance, these men seemed sure that I was their ideal woman, as long as my personality didn't come into it. I was a blank canvas onto which they could project whatever odd, antiquated ideas they had about men and women. I was to be a romantic heroine from a Victorian novel, coughing blood into the occasional handkerchief while he, the melancholic hero, carried his burden bravely.I can tell Ms. Sholl that she's not alone --- there is actually empirical research showing that disabled women are a lot likelier than their nondisabled counterparts to have male partners who espoused a philosophy of "patriarchal dominance," and that, going along with that, disabled women experience a lot more intimate-partner violence than nondisabled women do.
I suppose for a certain type of man, the idea of a disabled girlfriend carries a number of advantages. "Well," they think, "she'll always need me, she'll be grateful, and it'll be hard for her to run off with anybody else." Through friends, I also heard that a couple of men (30 years older than me, and of no fixed abode) thought that, while I'd be out of their league normally, they'd be in with a chance because of my disability. It seems your market value slips when you're
disabled, and going for a disabled woman means you'll be able to get one who's a bit prettier, cleverer and younger than you would otherwise. A win-win situation, really.
There really are men out there who specifically target vulnerable women, and it is often women with disabilities who end up in their sights.